Session 1: Compatibility in Marriage

Session Overview

This session will focus on the need for compatibility between marriage partners. Although every Christian marriage will require both spouses to navigate a variety of differences and difficulties for years to come, it is wise to explore any significant difficulties beforehand. Doing this follows biblical wisdom and avoids shocking disclosures after marriage. This provides a basis for upcoming sessions, encouraging both participants to be honest and candid in sharing experiences and perspectives and in responding to feedback from their partner. If any disclosure seems prohibitive to a harmonious marriage, then prayerful discussion will follow. This session will refer to feedback from the Premarital Inventory.


Biblical Perspective

  1. What does Genesis 2:18 verse teach about the relationship between a husband and a wife?

The Hebrew word order of this verse places the phrase “not good” at the beginning. This emphasizes that loneliness is not good and that marriage between a man and a woman is a God-given way to provide the close companionship that we need.

The phrase “helper comparable to him” describes a woman as someone who differs from the man in ways that meet his needs and makes up for his deficiencies. This applies to the differences between men and women in general, but also the differences between any husband and wife specifically.

  1. What principle does Amos 3:3 and 2 Corinthians 6:14 teach that helps you make a wise choice about whom you should marry?

The word yoke describes two farm animals plowing a field together side by side. This made the work easier and more productive if the animals were the same kind, the same size, and the same strength. But if the animals were of a different kind, size, and strength, it made the work much more difficult.

  1. What principle does Proverbs 22:3 and 27:12 teach that helps you to make a wise choice about whom you should marry?

The word prudent describes someone who makes good choices. The word simple describes an uninformed person who makes choices that he or she will deeply regret.

  1. What areas of agreement and similarity are necessary for marriage?
  2. What areas of agreement and similarity are wise to discuss before marriage, though they may not prohibit you from marrying?
  3. What are some good differences between you and your spouse that may strengthen and enhance your marriage?
  4. What questions do you have as result of this lesson?


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