Words of Affirmation from Parents

Parents say a lot of things to their children. Sometimes correction. Sometimes instruction. Sometimes warning. Sometimes humor. And sometimes just good old fashioned conversation.

But one thing that parents need to say more often is words of affirmation. Fathers especially need to do this with their sons. Author Steve Farrar alerted me to this, in his book King Me: What Every Son Wants and Needs from His Father. (Thank you, Steve.) I recommend this book to any father.

Somewhere in the book, he highlighted the baptism of Jesus. On this occasion, God the Father spoke these words:

And lo a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased. (Matthew 3:17)

This statement raises an important practical and relational point, in addition to important theological points. There is something powerful and important about telling your son, “I love you, and I am very pleased with you.”

If you are a father, then you are also a son. And you know what I mean when I say that every son wants to hear these words from his father. He desperately wants to hear his father say, “I love you son.” And he desperately wants to hear him say, “I am pleased, very pleased with you son.”

Are you a father? Are you a father with sons? Among the many things you say to your children, do you speak intentional words of affirmation? Do you tell your child that you love him? Do you tell him that you are very pleased with him?

These kind of words meet the need of your child’s heart, and over time, inspire them to rise to the challenge before them. They inspire and build confidence that pursues and accomplishes great things.

So today, will you tell your child that you love him? Will you look him in the eye and tell him that you are very pleased with him? And will you make this a regular practice in your life?

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