Gaining Influence God’s Way — Lessons from 2 Samuel 2
Big Idea:
Influence gained through godly means will endure. Influence gained through force and fear often crumbles.
The death of Saul plunged Israel into chaos. For seven years, the land knew no king, only power struggles and uncertainty. In 2 Samuel 2, we witness two rival factions rising to influence: David in Judah and Ishbosheth, Saul’s son, backed by the military under Abner.
This chapter exposes the raw reality of gaining influence without a legitimate king in place. It’s a lesson in leadership, patience, strategy, and trusting God’s timing.
If you want to understand how God shapes leaders and nations amid chaos, 2 Samuel 2 is a crucial passage. Let’s dig in.
1. Gaining Influence Without a King
a. Judah Anoints David King
David’s first move after Saul’s death was to seek the Lord’s guidance. God directed him to Hebron, a city of refuge in Judah. Though not a large city, it offered safety for David and his men, including their families.
Hebron became David’s base of power. The tribe of Judah anointed him king over their territory. This anointing was both a political and spiritual acknowledgment of David’s rightful claim.
David’s leadership style is evident here. He honored those who honored Saul by sending a message of gratitude to the men of Jabesh Gilead for burying Saul. Even as he rose, David maintained honor and respect.
David’s influence grew not by force or military might but by obeying God, building relationships, and living honorably.
b. Abner Installs Saul’s Son Ishbosheth
Meanwhile, Saul’s cousin and army commander Abner positioned Saul’s son Ishbosheth as king over the northern tribes. This installation was driven by military strength rather than spiritual legitimacy.
Ishbosheth’s reign lasted only two years, compared to David’s 7.5 years in Hebron. The delayed anointing and the militaristic backing reveal the instability and power struggles of the time.
2. The Clan Clash — A Battle for Influence
After Ishbosheth’s installation, a fierce contest for control broke out.
a. 12 vs 12
At the pool of Gibeon, Abner and Joab, David’s commander, arranged a contest: twelve champions from each side faced off. Each pair killed their opponent, resulting in twelve casualties on each side.
The champions’ duel was only the beginning.
b. General vs Gazelle
Joab’s brother Asahel was swift as a gazelle, relentlessly pursuing Abner. Despite warnings, Asahel refused to back down and was killed by Abner in self-defense.
This chase highlights leadership and personal valor clashing on the battlefield—seasoned general versus fleet-footed warrior.
c. Death Toll: 360 vs 19
The battle intensified. Joab’s forces lost 19 men, including Asahel, while Abner’s side lost 360. The vast difference reveals the superiority of David’s forces, which could be chalked up to better leadership, strategy, or morale, but is really indicative of God’s hand at work.
3. Insights from the Passage
a. Gaining Influence is Real
Every leader, in ministry, business, or life, is seeking influence. David and Ishbosheth’s rivalry shows two very different approaches.
David gained influence by seeking God’s direction, honoring others, and patiently building support.
Ishbosheth’s influence was imposed by military force and political maneuvering.
Which approach do you see reflected in your leadership?
b. Differences Between Attacking and Defending
David’s forces seemed primarily defensive, protecting their territory, while Ishbosheth’s side was more aggressive.
Attacking to gain influence can provoke unnecessary conflict. Defending builds a strong foundation and earns respect.
Recognize when to advance and when to hold ground in your own life.
c. Value Seeking and Waiting
David’s biggest strength was his trust in God’s timing. He sought guidance and waited patiently.
The lesson? God is the ultimate Kingmaker and influencer. Our role is to seek Him, align with His will, and wait for His timing.
Final Thoughts
2 Samuel 2 reminds us that influence gained through godly means—obedience, honor, patience—will endure. Influence gained through force and fear often crumbles.
Are you rushing to gain influence or seeking God’s guidance? Leadership is more than power; it’s about character and faithfulness.
Study Questions
What does David’s move to Hebron reveal about his leadership style?
How does David’s honoring of the men of Jabesh Gilead demonstrate his character?
Why was Abner’s backing important to Ishbosheth’s reign? How does this contrast with David’s rise?
What can the 12 vs 12 battle teach us about rivalry and conflict?
How does the story of Asahel and Abner illustrate personal courage and restraint?
What lessons can we learn from the difference in casualties between the two armies?
How can the principles of seeking God’s timing and patience apply to your own leadership challenges?
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